Amitayus: I got rid of all my stuff, donating some and shipping the rest back to my parents’ house in the States. There was nothing left of mine anymore, I was ready to be outta there!
Elica: It was at this time that we had a falling out.
When my ex-fiancé and I separated, he also decided to spend some time in Koh Phangan, where he met Amitayus. One day, several months later back in Australia, Amitayus spent the day hanging out with him.
Amitayus: I’d actually met him because he’d attended one of my masculinity workshops on the island.
Elica: Which I had actually paid for…
Amitayus: So, he was both a client and could also be considered a friend.
Elica: At first, I was accepting of my ex-fiancé trying to befriend my friends. But the new year was coming up and for this new year I had made a new resolution. I decided I was doing an internal cleanse and I knew that all the old energy from my previous relationship had to go.
Some of my friends were really on the fence so I approached them and told them how I felt.
“I really need this energy out of my life and that means no social media stalking and no mutual connections. Please don’t take it personally but I need to do what I need to do.”
Amitayus: I was one of the people she approached. Basically, she gave me a choice and said, “You need to stop being friends with him or I’m going to have to stop being friends with you.” I said, “Sorry, that’s not cool and I’m not going to do that. I’m keeping this connection.”
Elica: When he said no, I said fair enough and promptly defriended him on Facebook. I think he was a bit shocked that I did that.
Amitayus: She actually defriended me!
My peaceful Libran side courted her back to me
Amitayus: My rising sign is Libra and by nature I don’t like conflict and people not getting along. Plus, in addition to being very attracted to her, I really liked her as a person.
I contacted her and told her I was leaving the island in two weeks and would be gone forever.
“It would be great if we could leave on good terms. Can we can we get lunch and just talk about things?”
She said, “We can meet for a shake.”
Lunch was too much of a commitment.
Still, I was delighted that she’d accepted to meet and talk things through.
I was leaving in just three days and we finally met in a little place for a shake. That meeting turned into a three hour conversation.
Elica: That was the longest we’d had hung out together alone and I liked him so much more than I wanted to.
Amitayus: The funny thing is, we didn’t even talk about our falling out! We just talked about other things.
