Amitayus: At the end of it, I asked her out one last time for the next night.
She finally said yes!
When we ended up with a date, I thought, ‘How did I do that? That’s just great, that’s awesome!’
Elica: Go me! I think it took me around a year for me to say yes to our first date.
Amitayus: We got together the next night.
Elica: We had a beautiful Italian dinner date.
Amitayus: No, that was the next night.
Elica: Oh, that was the next night… Well, what did we do the first night?
Amitayus: We just had sex.
Elica: Oh, God!
Amitayus: She came over to my place and we were both surprised at the power of the connection we had. We had both assumed it was going to be a one night stand because I was leaving in two days. But the next morning I asked her if I could see her again that night and again, she said yes.
Elica: I think he had about five different options lined up at that stage.
Amitayus: Yes, I had to disappoint some ladies. That was the night we went out to a very nice Italian dinner. We spent most of the night staring into each others eyes, starstruck.
Elica: We just couldn’t stop smiling! It was really cute.
Amitayus: After dinner she had a client appointment so she had to go home and do a therapy session but she came right back to mine after that.
We spent another night together.
The next day, I left.
Elica: We knew that the connection we felt was real and even though he was leaving, I knew that was not going to be the end of it. We hadn’t discussed it at that point, it was intuitive—I just knew.
What was funny was, I assumed if there was going to be an ongoing thing there, it was going to be open relationship. Since my last relationship had too many issues around jealousy, fear and control, Amitayus also assumed we were going to have an open relationship as he thought that’s what I wanted.
So he assumed I wanted the open relationship and I assumed that he did and that’s where we were.
Amitayus: My next stop on my way back to the States was India. I went back there to do a season with Prem Baba who is a teacher. His name literally means, ‘the father of love.’
Meanwhile, any Internet connection I could get, which was something you never knew where you would find in India, Elica and I would be chatting on Facebook or Skype.
I was going to stay in India for six weeks and after that I was heading to Korea for a week to do a workshop. After Korea, I would be heading back to the States on a one-way ticket.
I told Elica, “I can’t leave this continent without seeing you again. Will you come to India?”
She keen on seeing me, but really wasn’t keen on India as a meeting point.
I said, “Well, what about Korea? I’m going to Korea after India to do a workshop.” And she said yes.
Elica: Before my trip, a good girlfriend of ours was doing a workshop that I was leading. She was very happy to see me again and we were catching up with our news. She’d met his guy and was very excited about him. She said, “Well, this guy is really great. I mean his not like an Amitayus, but he’s still great.”
Amitayus and I hadn’t told anyone about us at this point so when she casually dropped his name into our conversation, I jumped. My friend also has Pisces in her chart and is quite intuitive, so I was left wondering if she knew about Amitayus and me.
When I finally told her I was going to Korea to meet him she got terribly excited. She also gave me an important insight and said, “Elica, just a quick heads-up—you know he really likes kids. If you’re going to go see him, have a think about that before you go.”
I said, “Thanks for the tip.” It was good to know.
Amitayus: I extended my stay in Korea by one week since she was coming to see me. This would give us nine whole days together.
Elica: We thought we hadn’t had enough time together. To explore this properly, we had to spend more time with each other and see how it went.
