Amitayus: But then when one of us goes and does the work on that to open that issue up and process it, that gives the other person the opportunity to open their work up too and as a result going forward, that issue isn’t a trigger anymore. Next time we are in the same situation, the thing I do doesn’t trigger her anymore and she doesn’t react as she used to, which in turn gives me the opportunity to really see what I’m doing.
Prem Baba says, “You should be happy 51% of the time in your relationship,” while other teachers put this figure at around 70%.
On a different note, Eckhart Tolle says, “The function of the relationship is not to make you happy, it is to bring consciousness.” So, in terms of happily ever after a lot is relative to that.
It’s really amazing how far we’ve come in our relationship. I can honestly say with all the yoga and meditation that I’ve done, this conscious relationship has brought me the most growth, the most understanding, the most of everything. It’s very powerful.
Elica: Same! We have similar values, we work on the polarity, and then we do the inner work for issues and that three-pronged approach seems to working.
Amitayus: I agree.
What we’re focusing on now is trying to decide where we’re going to live. We’ll be going back to the States for a few months to check out the different places. With everything else out of the way, that’s our biggest question mark at the moment, where to be.
We trust that we’ll know the right place when it shows up.
Read the article Amitayus wrote as he and Elica decided to transition from polyamory to monogamy over here.
Amitayus and Elica are dedicated to the psycho-spiritual path, and bringing that to others, through psychotherapy, and workshops focusing on the merging of the Vertical and Horizontal Paths, Relationships as Vehicle for Spiritual Growth, Men’s Work and more. Equally important to them are music, art and animals, especially dogs.
(Interview & write-up by Bianca)
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