An 89-year-old man at the retirement home got down on one knee and asked me to marry him

down so that he could remember them and ask me about them properly the following week.

An eighty-nine-year-old man was doing homework on a fifty-four-year-old woman’s bereavement so that she would feel heard on a Wednesday.

And in eleven visits I had learned that his wife was called Nancy, that he had been in haulage, and that he thought the fish on Fridays was an insult.

That is the entire inventory. I could not have told you what he was frightened of. I could not have told you whether he had anybody.

I had been going to that building to be listened to, and I had dressed it up as volunteering, and he had let me.

And the other half.

And underneath that there is the cupboard, and the cupboard is worse, and it took a woman called Halla on Thursdays about four months.

I did not leave Pete on