f the strategy to make me feel old, incapable, dependent.
I also remembered the increasingly spaced-out visits. Before marrying Sarah, Robert would come to see me at least three times a week. We would have coffee together, talk for hours, and he would tell me about his work, his plans, his dreams. After the wedding, visits were reduced to once a week, then once every two weeks, and in the last few months, I barely saw him once a month.
Whenever I asked him why he wasn’t coming more often, he had perfectly elaborate excuses.
“Work is too heavy, Mom. Sarah and I are very busy with a new project. You know how it is. Married life has its own demands.”
The pieces were starting to fit together with painful clarity. The constant questions about my health that previously seemed like concern now looked like what they really were: attempts