We had a son and then twins about 3 years after our son. I had no help and it was terribly difficult. My husband is a lawyer and represents billion Dollar corporations. He is a firm believer in always being available for his clients, which meant that whether it was a weekday, weekend, morning or nighttime, he would pick up that phone. We are very strong in our faith and I read a book about praying for your husband, which is what I always did.
The usual issues popped up in our lives together: money, decisions, other things. We were at the edge a few times but we realized we were each other’s best friends. We worked our way out of all our troubles and stayed together.
In 1991, I was in a terrible auto accident where I was dead at the scene. I was in the hospital for weeks and he was there for me. I had many broken bones as well as internal injuries. He stayed with me through all my surgeries. His mother came to stay while I was in hospital and I think he realized once again all that I do while he works.
It was an understandably horrifying experience as I thought I had caused the deaths of my three children, aged 13 and 9 at the time, who were all in the back seat. Divinely protected, they did not have a single scratch on them but I didn’t know that at the time. I was in and out of a dream-like state and I thought I was hallucinating every time they came to visit me. I held their hands so hard it hurt them. I was just terrified that if they left they would never return.
I saw the spirit of my father, who had passed away years ago, three times. He told me it was not my time to go yet. I told him my kids needed me in heaven but he told me they were not in heaven but in school instead and that they needed me here.
About an hour after the last visit from my father, a doctor friend dropped by confirming the same thing – my kids were absolutely fine and in school. An hour later they took me off the respirator. Another 2 hours later they moved me to another room. I asked the doctors how I could go home. They told me when I stopped taking Valium and morphine I was free to go. So I stopped and that was the end of that – I went home.
